How to Love Yourself, Even When You Don’t Feel Lovable

Exactly as the title states, we can often find ourselves in self-doubt, self-loathing and insecurity.

Janice Eastman
5 min readMay 24, 2022


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Our life experiences and the more subtle influences of our daily interactions can significantly affect this sense of worthlessness that we can sometimes feel.

When we continually compare ourselves to those around us, whether we’re on Instagram looking at those who seem to have “their stuff” together.” Or whenever we see someone who appears to be a little more successful than us. We never truly see their own personal and emotional struggles — their humanness.

One way to begin loving yourself, even when you don’t feel lovable, is by recognizing that everyone has struggles and vulnerabilities, even those people who seem to have “it all together.”

Just because someone appears to be successful or happy doesn’t mean they don’t have their own personal challenges.

Rather than comparing yourself to others and coming up short, focus on your own unique gifts and strengths.

Appreciating your own qualities can help you feel more confident and self-assured.

We’re all screw-ups

Another way to start loving yourself is by accepting that you are not perfect and that it’s okay to make mistakes.

We all screw up sometimes — it’s part of being human. What counts is how you handle those missteps. Do you beat yourself up over them, or do you learn from them and move on?

Learning to forgive yourself for your mistakes is essential in developing self-love.

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to practice self-care.

It means taking time out for YOU — doing things that make YOU happy and relaxed.

It might be something as simple as taking a long bubble bath or walking in nature. Maybe it’s reading a good book or watching your favourite movie.

Whatever it is that brings YOU joy, make sure to fit it into your schedule on a regular basis!

Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically helps boost your mood and…



Janice Eastman

From reading my writing, I hope you will begin to break down self-imposed barriers and find your authentic self in the extraordinary story of life.