How To Make Room For Self-Love: Finding Inner Peace

For years, I didn’t think I was worthy of self-love or friendship because of the personal and emotional abuse I experienced during my childhood.

Janice Eastman
6 min readJun 1, 2022
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As an adult, it took me a while to realize that everything I was taught growing up wasn’t true and that it was okay to love myself and let others in.

If you feel like you need to make room for self-love in your life, here are some steps you can take to find inner peace and start the journey toward self-love and happiness.

Banish Negative Self-Talk

What you say to yourself when no one is listening has an enormous impact on your self-esteem and happiness.

Take control of your inner voice by banishing negative self-talk from your thoughts and replacing it with uplifting words that help build a positive self-image.

No matter how many times a negative thought enters your mind, it’s essential to pushing it out, taking a deep breath in between thoughts as you focus on healthy thinking. This can be difficult in moments of high stress or anxiety but is even more necessary than at any other time.

It will take practice, but eventually, you will notice a shift in your mindset. You will feel better about yourself and see life through clearer eyes.

Give Yourself a Break

No one is a perfect human being, and expecting yourself to be otherwise is harmful.

You are going to make mistakes. And if you’re anything like me, you’ll probably regret those mistakes — which leads to more errors.

Learning how to forgive yourself (and others) will allow you to move forward and do better in future situations.

Here‘s a tip on how you can give yourself a break next time you screw up.

Accept responsibility for your actions — even when you know that something wasn’t your fault, it’s still important to own up to your actions. It could be that someone provoked or manipulated you into doing something terrible. Maybe an external situation made it impossible for you…



Janice Eastman

From reading my writing, I hope you will begin to break down self-imposed barriers and find your authentic self in the extraordinary story of life.