Ten Ways To Find True Happiness

There is no right way to define happiness; it’s your choice

Janice Eastman
6 min readDec 15, 2021


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Happiness is a funny thing. It’s such a subjective feeling, and everyone has our definition of it. For some, it’s the feeling of winning a game or finding a long-lost friend. For others, it’s a deep sense of relaxation or the chance to help save the world. For still others, it’s a sense of purpose or the pursuit of knowledge.

But what makes us happy? What brings us joy? The answer, of course, is different for everyone. There’s no one right way to be satisfied, and you can’t just follow someone else’s path because you’re unique. And your happiness comes from your unique mix of experiences, emotions, and motivations.

The holidays are almost here. And, many of us wonder what it will look and feel like when thinking about our future. Some are looking forward to the changes and milestones they’ll reach, while others dread what lies ahead. But whatever your thoughts are on the matter, there’s no harm in asking yourself, “What will make me happy?”

“Nobody cares if you’re miserable, so you might as well be happy.” — Cynthia Nelms.

If you’re looking for a recipe for happiness this holiday season, here are a few things that can get you started:

  1. Live in the Present: The best way to find true happiness is to stop looking for it outside yourself. It’s not found in external things, relationships, or success. It’s in the here and now, in the experiences and relationships that you have. The more you invest in the present moment, the happier you’ll be.
  2. Let Go of the Past: The past is a great teacher. But it also holds a lot of lessons that are useless for your present and future. To be happy in the present, you have to let go of the past. The past is a solid foundation for learning and growth, but it shouldn’t be your North Star.
  3. Spend Time with Those You Love: A few years ago, I read a great quote that has stuck with me. It said, “When you’re with those you love, you’ll always have something to laugh at.” It’s true. People spend 90% of their time at work and 10% with those they love. If you want to find true happiness, spend some time with those who love and care about you. It might not be fun and games, but an…



Janice Eastman

From reading my writing, I hope you will begin to break down self-imposed barriers and find your authentic self in the extraordinary story of life.